Ukubonga kunomthelela omuhle ekuziphatheni kwethu - masithembeke kakhulu, sikhulise ukuzithiba kwethu, futhi sithuthukise ukusebenza kahle kwethu kanye nobudlelwano bomndeni.

Ngakho-ke, ungase ucabange ukuthi ngicabanga ukuthi i-Thanksgiving ingenye yezinsuku ezibaluleke kakhulu zonyaka.Phela, uma izinzuzo zokubonga zandiswa

ngosuku oluthile, kumelwe kube iholide lezwe elimiswe ngokukhethekile ukuze liveze imizwa enjalo.

Kodwa uma sikhuluma iqiniso, ukubonga kuwukumosha ku-Thanksgiving.Ungangizwa kabi: Ngithanda isigqi nesiko langaleso sikhathi njengawo wonke umuntu.

Yilezi zinto nje ezenza i-Thanksgiving ibe yinhle kakhulu - inkampani yezihlobo nabangane, isikhathi esingasebenzi, nokujabulela i-turkey ekhethekile.

isidlo sakusihlwa - okwenza i-Thanksgiving ingadingeki.

Enye yezinjongo eziyinhloko zokubonga ukusisiza ukuba sakhe ubuhlobo obuqinile nabanye.Ucwaningo lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSara Algoe lubonisa lokho lapho sibonga

ngokucabangela kwabanye, sicabanga ukuthi bangase bafaneleke ukuqondwa okwengeziwe.Ukubonga kusishukumisela ukuba sithathe isinyathelo sokuqala sokwakha ubuhlobo

nabantu abangabazi.Uma sesibazi kangcono abanye, ukubonga okuqhubekayo kuzoqinisa ukuxhumana kwethu nabo.Ukubonga ngosizo lwabanye futhi

kusenza sizimisele kakhulu ukunikeza usizo kubantu esingabazi - isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMonica Bartlett sathola lesi simo - okwenza abanye bafune

ukusazi.

Kodwa lapho sihlezi eduze kwetafula lokubonga nezihlobo nabangane, ngokuvamile asibafuni ngamabomu abanye futhi sisungule ubuhlobo obusha.

Ngalolu suku, besilokhu sinabantu esibazisayo.

Ukuze kucace, angisho ukuthi akufanelekile ukuzinika isikhathi sokuzindla nokuzwakalisa ukwazisa ngezinto ezinhle ekuphileni.Lesi isenzo esihle impela.

Kodwa ngokombono wesayensi - ukuba khona kwemizwa kuzothuthukisa izinqumo zethu kanye nokuziphatha ukuze kuthuthuke ngendlela ethile - izinzuzo

yokubonga kuvame ukungabi namsebenzi ngosuku lapho ivezwa khona kakhulu.

Nasi esinye isibonelo.Ucwaningo lwami lwaselabhorethri lubonisa ukuthi ukubonga kuyasiza ukwethembeka.Lapho mina nozakwethu sicela abantu ukuthi babike ukuthi ngabe

uhlamvu lwemali abaluphonsa ngasese lwalulungile noma lubi (izindlela ezinhle bazothola imali eyengeziwe), labo ababa nokubonga (ngokubala injabulo yabo)

Amathuba okukopela ayeyingxenye nje yabanye.Siyazi ukuthi ngubani okhohlise ngoba uhlamvu lwemali lwenzelwe ukubhekana ngqo

Ukubonga kusenza sibe nokuphana kakhulu: ekuhloleni kwethu, lapho abantu benethuba lokwabelana ngemali nabantu abangabazi, sithole ukuthi labo

ababongayo bazokwabelana ngo-12% ngaphezulu ngokwesilinganiso.

Nokho, ngoSuku Lokubonga, ukukopela nokuncisha ngokuvamile akuzona izono zethu.(Ngaphandle uma ubala ukuthi ngidle kakhulu ukudla okudumile kuka-Anti Donna.)

Ukuzithiba nakho kungathuthukiswa ngokubonga.Mina nozakwethu siye sathola ukuthi abantu ababongayo mancane amathuba okuba benze imali ngokuxhamazela

ukukhetha - bazimisele kakhulu ukubekezela ngezinzuzo zokutshala izimali zesikhathi esizayo, kunokuhahela inzuzo encane.Lokhu kuzithiba kuyasebenza nasekudleni:

njengoba okutholwe isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uSonja Lyubomirsky nozakwabo kubonisa, abantu ababongayo bavame ukumelana nokudla okungenampilo.

Kodwa ngesikhathi sokubonga, ukuzithiba akulona iphuzu.Akekho odinga ukuzikhumbuza ukonga imali eyengeziwe ku-akhawunti yakhe yomhlalaphansi;Amabhange

zivaliwe.Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma ngingakwazi ukudla uphaya wethanga ka-Amy owengeziwe ngoSuku Lokubonga, ngizolinda nini?

Ukubonga kuphinde kusenze siphumelele kakhudlwana.Izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo u-Adam Grant noFrancesca Gino bathola lokho lapho abaphathi bebonisa ukubonga ngomsebenzi onzima

kubasebenzi bomnyango wezezimali, imizamo yabo esebenzayo izokhuphuka ngokuzumayo ngama-33%.Ukudlulisa ukubonga okwengeziwe ehhovisi nakho kuseduze

okuhlobene nokwaneliseka okuphezulu komsebenzi kanye nenjabulo.

Futhi, konke ukubonga kukhulu.Kodwa ngaphandle uma kuyimboni yesevisi, ungase ungasebenzi ku-Thanksgiving.

Ngifuna ukuveza enye inzuzo yokubonga: kunganciphisa ukuthanda izinto ezibonakalayo.Ucwaningo lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uNathaniel Lambert lubonisa ukuthi ukuba ngaphezulu

ukubonga ngeke nje kuthuthukise ukwaneliseka kwabantu ngokuphila, kodwa futhi kunciphise isifiso sabo sokuthenga izinto.Lokhu okutholakele kuyahambisana nocwaningo

wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uThomas Gilovich, obonisa ukuthi abantu bathambekele ekubongeni isikhathi abasichitha nabanye kunezipho ezibizayo.

Kodwa nge-Thanksgiving, ukugwema ukuthenga okungahleliwe ngokuvamile akuyona inkinga enkulu.(Kodwa i-Black Friday ngosuku olulandelayo ingenye indaba.)

Ngakho-ke, lapho wena nabathandekayo bakho nihlangana ndawonye ngoSuku Lokubonga kulo nyaka, uzothola ukuthi injabulo yalolu suku - ukudla okumnandi, umndeni.

nabangane, ukuthula kwengqondo - kulula ukukuthola.Kufanele sihlangane ngoLwesine wesine kuNovemba ukuze siduduzane futhi siphumule.

Kodwa kwezinye izinsuku ezingama-364 zonyaka - izinsuku lapho ungase uzizwe unesizungu, ucindezelekile emsebenzini, udidekile ukukopela noma ukushaya into encane, uyeka ukuze uhlakulele ukubonga.

kuzokwenza umehluko omkhulu.Ukubonga kungase kungabi isikhathi sokubonga, kodwa ukubonga ngezinye izinsuku kungakusiza uqinisekise ukuthi ungathola

izinto eziningi okufanele sibonge ngazo esikhathini esizayo.